Twinsie Tuesday: I don't know How You do It?!

Being a mother of twins I have heard the statement "I don't know how you do it!" many times.  I was thinking about it today after a challenging morning and I thought, "You know I don't know how I do it"  either!  Someone please cue the violins!  With every new stage comes new challenges and sometimes I don't always feel up for it!  I'm in a season in my life where I've been overcoming doubts in how I handle being a mother and wife.  It feels like it's been a looooong season.  But recently I had an encounter that has helped me change my thinking.  During praise & worship at our church I had an experience that reminded me that it's only through the awesome power of Jesus that I am able to overcome these seasons.  Because I'm a joint heir with Christ and a new creation I am designed to overcome...to succeed!  It doesn't mean I will have perfect days or perfect relationships or be a perfect person, but it does mean that every time I choose to be thankful, to walk in love and be kind to others, starting with my family first,  I will get past the feelings and doubts in challenging seasons.  That's how I do it...don't think on the challenge think on the prize!

What's the prize in my case... a happy, healthy,  all around prosperous family who loves the Lord, each other, and other people!  If that's what I want then that's what I have to show them how to be.  Finding strength in the one who has overcome it all!  Choosing life in my words, my thoughts, and my actions...that's how I do it!  And I will have plenty of opportunities to practice...even now an egg is laying cracked on the kitchen floor by curious little boys who don't enjoy their nap time.  Good stuff! 

A Beautiful Vue

Tru's first day of school this year will take place at a homeschool co-op here in town.  He was so excited!  We're still homeschooling, but being apart of the co-op partners us with great teachers and helps us stay on task, gives a little more structure, and is allowing us to adjust to some great new opportunities on the horizon!  He goes 3 days a week for about 5 hours and we do school the rest of the time at home.  This first week was amazing!  Tru loves his teacher, we all have made some new friends, and feel so blessed to be apart.  Definitely  a beautiful vue!

Book Review: Capturing Everyday Life by Jane Goodrich

I love taking pictures of my boys.  I have hundreds right now piling up in my phone that I need to print.  I like to catch them in the middle of just being sweet funny little boys.  Playing in the yard, rolling around their trucks and cars, or maybe just maybe one where showing a little love to one another.  More often than not I find myself just missing the moment and a lot of times I find my pictures are blurry and not anywhere near what I want them to be.  So when I got the chance to review Jane Goodrich's book I jumped on it!

Capturing Every Day Life by Jane Goodrich is a great book for parents who love doing just what the title says getting pictures of everyday life.  She has put together this book in an easy to understand kind of way.  The book says it best under the title "the no-nonsense, cheese-free, read-while-they-nap, easy-as-pie guide to taking top-notch, world-class photos of your kids".  The book is true to it's statement.  I was able to get through it in a couple of evenings after I put the twins down for bed.

The book is broken into 6 easy to read parts.  She covers choosing the right camera for your family, working with light, composition, how to pick the best time and places for your pictures, advanced techniques, working with your kids, and tips on how to photograph ages from infant to teens.  Also, she covers troubleshooting tips and FAQ's.  Each part was fun and informative filled with beautiful pictures that Jane has taken.  Her parts on composition helped me understand how to get more creative with my photos and after reading the part on working with light I really want to upgrade past our little point & shoot camera.  She covers the difference between a point & shoot camera and a prosumer+ camera.  Which  before reading her book I really didn't know the name for either, duh right.  She made it is easy for me to understand the benefits of each and that we don't have to break the budget to get a good camera that can keep up with our busy crew.  This book is a wellspring of information when it comes to getting really good shots of your kids.  The part that breaks down tips by age was probably my favorite.  I read over the infant and baby tips and wished I had this book about 8 years ago when Tru was born.

Capturing Everyday Life is I think a must have for every family with children.  It was an easy read because Jane Goodrich writes so well and her passion for photography was on every page.  You can tell she loves what she does!  She made every section understandable and didn't talk over the head of amateur like myself.  Her book encourages parents to get creative with their photos and gives good advice on how to get them.  This will be a book that I go back to time and again.  It would make a great gift for new parents, because as I said before we really could've used it when our first little one came along.  She inspired me to get better photos of my boys and how important a good photo is at helping preserve these precious memories.  I can't wait to give some of her tips a try!

For more information on Capturing Everyday Life by Jane Goodrich visit her here.  Her website is just a great as her book!  And if you're interested in getting her book it's on Amazon.

*I received this book free to review from the author. The opinions expressed in this review are my true thoughts and feeling regarding this book. I am disclosing this information in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's 16 CFR, Part 255.

Pinterest Inspiration

The other day I found a saying on Pinterest and I really liked it.  It said, "Together is our favorite place to be" and thought that's a perfect family statement.  It describes exactly how we feel about our family.  So on a Saturday J was home I made a quick kid free trip into Michael's to get a few supplies.  Having a coupon in hand I think I spent under $10 on everything.  It's a real treat to go into a store and come out without breaking a sweat from lugging 3 very wiggly children in and out with me.  I even walked the down some of the aisles and browsed a minute...it was great!  So, after a couple days of deciding what to do and not wanting to mess up a blank canvas I just dove in.  I used acrylic paints in blue, buttermilk, black, and holiday red.  

 I'm not in love with all my lettering.  I did it all free hand. I've been researching Pinterest on the how to's of lettering.  I know there's a way that I can do it and it look cleaner.  I'm always interested in what works for others, so if you have any advice let me know.  But there are things I really do like about it. I like the colors and I like that I have a piece of art that didn't blow the budget.  And for my first one I'm pleased and one thing I did like is how much I enjoyed painting and creating it.  

A Beautiful Vue: Making Memories

Father & son cooking together.  We've been making homemade pizza about every other weekend together.  It's been a family affair and we all enjoy it! J will even toss the dough in the air like a professional.  In this beautiful vue he's letting this little guy help get the dough ready.  Good times and great memories!

Twinsie Tuesday: 5 Ways to Make it Easier to Ask for Help

All mothers, especially multiples moms, need help sometimes.  Whether it's so you can grocery shop alone or getting some quiet time to yourself you're going to need some help every now and then.   But for some of us it's hard to ask for help.  Maybe it's a control issue in thinking no one can do it as good as you could.  Maybe it's a pride thing in thinking other's shouldn't have to reach in and help you with your stuff or you don't want a sitter in the house because the mess they'd find might scare them away!  Whatever it might be the fact still remains a little help couldn't hurt.  In fact, it will probably help!

A little confession...my hang up is mixture of a few things.  I hesitate to ask for help because I hate pulling on others to do things for me and I feel guilty for asking...probably a pride thing I know.  I'm working on it and getting better every day.  But for real, sometimes I'd rather take all my kids to the grocery store or shop late at night when J gets home than ask someone to watch my kiddos.  So in an attempt to overcome my hesitation to ask for help I thought of few things that have helped me in the past.  Here are 5 things that have helped make it easier when I'm asking for help...

1.  Plan ahead.  Most people don't like being caught off guard.  So do your best to give as much notice as possible when your needing help with a sitter or things like that.  Also, planning ahead gives you chance to get things like your house and grocery or errand lists in order.  This way you don't feel bad about the house and you utilize your time when you're out getting stuff done.

2. Just ask.  All they can do is say no.  You can always find someone else to help or another day to get it done.  One thing I struggle with is when people say no.  Don't over think their reason for declining.  Just move on and it'll work out.

3. Be willing to pay.  I know not everyone can pay for the extra help we all need sometimes, but with a little planning and budget tweaking most people can.  There is usually no shortage of teenage girls willing to babysit.  But if you're new in town check with the local churches or mom's groups.  Also, there are sites that you can use to help you find a good sitter in your area, check out Care.com or Sittercity.com.  Both sites have people who have had background checks and it can be a good resource.

4.  Be willing to help others.  The old saying "You reap what you sow" is very true.  If you are always turning other moms down when they need help, you may find a lot resistance when you need help.  Good news is all it takes is you helping others for them to want to help you back.

5. Be consistent.  What do I mean by that?  Well try to set it up where you get out once a or twice a month.  Date nights, grocery trips, or just coffee alone.  I have found when I slack at getting out it makes it harder for me to ask.  I guess I let myself slump back to thinking those "I got this!" thoughts.  Plus, it gives you something to look forward to and helps you be a better parent when you get some time away.  Even it is just grocery shopping.

One more thing, don't let someone make you feel guilty for asking, including yourself.  I have this one mom who is a God send when it comes to the help area.  I trust her as much as I trust family.  She has never made me feel guilty for asking for help, but I have tendency to make myself feel guilty.  Me not her.   I say this...Only you can allow yourself to feel guilty whether or not a person does it on purpose is irrelevant...it's a choice.  Just like happiness and joy are choices. You know what I mean?
No of us are going to get right all the time.  Sometimes we can't plan ahead when things pop up and sometimes it won't be in the budget.  But be flexible and forgiving in all situations.  Let yourself off the hook and start planning a day to get out of the house, alone.  It's ok to ask for help.   And if you have more ideas in this area let me know.  I would love to hear what other parents do to get some help.

Potty Training Twins

As of this week we are a month into potty training the twins.  It's not been a walk in the park.  It has been hard work. Hard, messy work.  Of course, I  researched different ideas on how to get started. It's been a few years since we potty trained Tru.  I debated on trying the whole potty train your kid in a day, three day, or week thing.  I even thought about waiting until they turned 3 in the Fall.  Ultimately, I knew it was time and I just had to dive in.  And now a  month into potty training both our boys are out of diapers and wearing big boy pants all day.   I learned a few things in this process...

1.Pick a date
Clear your schedule give yourself and your little ones as many days as possible.  We picked a week that was the least busiest and marked the calendar.  I made sure we had plenty of groceries to mimimize trips into to town.  We spent the first week at home camped out.  No plans.  No where to be.  My focus was to be there when they were ready to go.  I think by clearing our schedule it helped me to feel less stressed about the whole thing and allowed me to catch their cues as far as when they were most likely to go.

2.Be Prepared
This is a life motto for any family with multiples, right.  Get the potty seats, buy the underwear, plenty of washing detergent, wipes, and stuff to clean up with.  We had accidents, missed the potty completely sometimes, and went through many changes of clothing.  I am finding that the less I stress about these things the better it all works out and being prepared helps with that, too.  When we go out I pack at least two changes of clothes for each kiddo and carry plenty of wipes.  I've always appreciated have an extra stash of kid clothes with me.

3.Don't Look Back
Once we decided to start potty training we committed to not go back to diapers.  We use them for bed time, but one of my guys can make it all the way through nap time dry.  Our main focus was getting good at staying dry through the day.  So the moment they're up they're in underwear. When we go out, no diapers.  I carry clothes with me everywhere we go.(I think I've said that already haven't I) It was not very convenient at first.  It felt like a chore.  But a month into it and we can go out relatively stress free.  We just make sure we hit the potty before we leave, when we get to where we're going, and before we head home.  It's a system that works for them.  I can gladly say the diaper bill is practically gone! Oh, be sure to let other's who keep your little ones know how committed you are to potty training.  It helps to have their support.  I can remember working in a daycare and how when the parents and caregivers were on the same page it helped the little ones succeed with their potty training.

4. Be Positive
We celebrate little potty sucesses. More so in the beginning than now, but still we will clap and praise them when they go all on their own.  We do not scold them when they have an accident.  I just clean it up and tell them they'll get it next time.  We set the mood in our home.  When we're excited about something our kids are too!

A couples things I thought I should mention. First, when we say their prayers at night we pray for easy potty training.  Literally, we say "Thank you Lord that they're bladders and bowels will be ready when we begin potty training". We've included this in their bedtime prayers since they were born.  If you're a believer you know God is in all the details of our lives, even potty training our children.  I know this is why we are having the success we've had with potty training.  Second, have patience and be watchful.  You're the parent and you know your little ones the best.  There's no rule that says you have to potty train at the same time.  As a mom of twins, I've learned pretty early on they are not the same people.  They came out together but they don't have to do everything together.  Do your research and go at the pace that's right for your little ones.  Allow you and them a little slack.  Potty training is like all the other milestones that they've had...they'll succeed with your gentle guidance and loving support.